Thanks for responding, you've given me a lot to think about already! the link is awesome and has got a good perspective.
I kind of figured it would have to be separate a little bit, it makes sense. Everyone needs their own time. I got ya. Thank you for putting that out there for me. In trying to think things though as you can see- i've gotten a little cluttered.
i understand that things always look better on paper
but play out much differently! its good to hear someone else voice what I was thinking. I have this thought in the back of my head that if things go badly, i could lose both people.... So im going to think, read and whatever i can to learn before i leap into this or any arrangement.
I didn't think of the "sleeping" arrangement things being fuel to a fire that shouldn't be so hot. Thanks for that perspective on this- its helpful to think like that and competition is not what i want exactly. So yeah...