Originally Posted by River
Am I a girl? Seems my penis is a very boy thing. Hmmm. Proof that a man can have tender feelings and be both available for and very interested in emotional closeness.
I remember, back in the early 90s, going to hear Sam Keen speak somewhere downtown with a friend of mine. At that time we were all reading his Fire in the Belly
and King, Warrior, Magician, Lover
by another author, in addition to Women Who Run with the Wolves
. Anyway, he said, "Why is it when I hold a child and caress their face, making cooing noises and expressing love, that I am told it's my feminine side? But if I punch someone in the face, then it's my masculine side? No, both those things are part of me. My masculinity has both tenderness and aggression."
It really struck me and I have tried not to categorize men and women ever since, but sometimes I do just out of habit.