Originally Posted by aliceloveshatter
I do obviously realise that we're all individuals and so we have different relationships, but it seems to me that sometimes there's a reluctance to think about the effect of one "couple"'s actions will have on the third partner.
It requires a tremendous amount of empathy and self-awareness to successfully do what you are trying to do. All three of you should be working on your communication skills pro-actively. You shouldn't wait until there is a crisis. It sounds like you've been flying by the seats of your pants, all three of you, and trusting that things will sort themselves. Since you can see where that is going, perhaps it's time for the three of you to take control and get yourselves on the same page. Why not invite your partners to join and/or take a look at this site, or some of the sites we have linked to in Resources