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Old 07-30-2011, 11:37 PM
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Originally Posted by AutumnalTone View Post
There's much to recommend that sort of mental rehearsal as a form of preparation.
Yes! Many times, I've given myself the exercise of imagining myself five years from now and looking back on a situation which currently has me upset or confused. In five years, how would I describe the outcome to someone? I imagine the conversation and even talk out loud. This helps me see things more clearly. One could imagine themselves telling a friend about their poly relationship five years from now. I think these kinds of imaginative exercises can get us in touch with our gut feelings, and what we really want in our heart of hearts, without being hampered by rationalizing or our intellectual thought processes.

Originally Posted by AutumnalTone View Post
Then sort through all of the feelings those imaginings generate. Figure out what bothers me and why.
^^ This is surely the most important part. If one can't resolve certain issues, it's probably best to hold off on jumping into poly then.
The world opens up... when you do.

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