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Old 07-30-2011, 04:13 PM
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Originally Posted by serialmonogamist View Post
That's the weird part. I don't have someone to cheat on right now yet I still feel like I would be sacrificing my honor if I cheated. I think the feeling could be compared to a virgin who doesn't want to give up their virginity because they believe it is something special to be cherished. Yet I also don't feel like I am "saving myself" for anyone in particular either. These are weird feelings that don't quite make sense to me intellectually...
Join the club. I have seen here that most of the things you feel, think and write about don't make any sense intellectually to most of us either.

Maybe someone who does can address how poly affects the allure of the grass on the other side of the fence.
When I seek other partners besides my lovely sexy gf, I don't see greener grass. If she's bluegrass, the other people may be a lovely fescue. Or oats. Or sorrel. Or lavender. Not greener (better), just different. I seek variety, in lovers, as well as in making the most of other experiences in life while I am on this planet.
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley

Mags (poly, F, 61) loving miss pixi (poly, F, 39) since January 2009, living together since 2013
"Master," (mono, 36), miss pixi's Dom for 3 years
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