Originally Posted by pursuitofhappyness
I finally agreed to let the relationship take place. Instantly it developed into a constant frenzy of texting, seeing eachother, asking me to leave with the kids so he could have her at our home, and putting the kids and I aside. It was a horrible situation...
I hope if this does reignite, he can see reason and you can both establish boundaries to keep things feeling manageable for you. Many people here have boundaries about number of texts allowed when he's supposed to be spending quality time with the primary and his family. And you don't have to agree to constantly take the kids out so they can fuck in your house!
He must not neglect your feelings and needs, nor the needs of the kids for their dad.
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley
There's no lying in polyamory!
I'm a 58 year old woman with 2 partners:
miss pixi, my live-in gf, 36 (together since Jan '09)
Ginger, bf, 61, married, lives nearby (together since Jan '12)