Thanks for the reply. I agree that a newer relationship should be full of energy and fun. However this is a person that he was involved with before, and we separated over his relationship with her. He lost all perspective on our marriage and family. She came first.
They stopped seeing eachother before because it got too intense, and her husband and I were not happy with what it was doing to our marriages. I had already left him when they stopped seeing eachother, and then he wanted to make our marriage his priority.
I allowed this relationship to happen again. I have no idea why. And now I fear I am going to pay the price of hurt and frustration once again. I am feeling quite foolish.