Originally Posted by redpepper
Really you are going to have to get used to going it alone a lot more in poly. Why not start now? Monogamy means being someones everything and they being yours. You won't ever be someones everything so if that is an issue either don't do it or get about finding others to spend time with, or make other areas of your life hold equal or more weight and attention.
Wow! I think you just distilled the base issue in my relationship and one I hadn't even considered... so thanks!
And I agree wholeheartedly about finding things that not only occupy your time, but that you enjoy and are passionate about. This could be other people or hobbies or a cause. Something that fulfills you is very satisfying and makes your relationships even stronger. (And I'm mono in my relationship so I have a *lot* of alone time to deal with...)