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Old 07-29-2011, 04:40 PM
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Originally Posted by Clearheart View Post
Yes, i guess i could show more compassion, but i feel like the one that is being left out with no one to talk to, they have each other and i am supposed to just wait till they decide if i should stay. I am more the type of person to take control of my life and not let it be in the power of others.
Then you may not be unicorn material! It's always gonna be 2 against one, imo. How long have they been together?

I guess i am only looking at it through my eyes, i think i will just step back and see what happens when the smoke clears.
Yes, when I made an attempt to get into a V with a married couple, I gave the metamour, the wife, lots of time to get used to me being in the mix, kept emphasizing I didn't want to put any pressure on her, or harm their relationship if I could at all help it.

...And in the mean time try to fill my needs myself.
Need for emotional connection? We're a great group of people who can relate to what you're going through.

Sexual needs? There's always masturbation/porn/fantasies or FBs/FWBs for that, while you wait for Mr/Ms Perfect to come along...
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley

Mags (poly, F, 62) loving Pixie (poly, F, 40) since January 2009, living together since 2013
Seeing Kahlo (polyish, M, 45)
Master, (mono, M, 36), Pixie's Dom/bf for 3+ years
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