Originally Posted by BlackUnicorn
Has anyone ever "retired" from BDSM for longer periods at a time because it was not possible for some reason in that stage of life (lack of partners/energy/bad experiences/too busy/other things to sort out)? If so, did you miss it?
Yes. My gf went thru a rough emotional patch for about 6 months, where she could barely manage brief vanilla sex, much less the awesome kinky stuff she'd gotten me accustomed to. I was quite bereft and cranky! (Also my boytoy stopped coming around in the same period! We used to do some kinky stuff too.) Thank god the gf is feeling much better these days and we are back to "normal."
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley
Mags (poly, F, 61) loving miss pixi (poly, F, 39) since January 2009, living together since 2013
In a newish relationship with Steve, (34, poly)
"Master," (mono, 34), miss pixi's Dom for 3 years