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Old 07-28-2011, 03:34 AM
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Default Controlling NRE

I went through the tag for NRE and didn't see anything in there that seemed relevant to the topic (although I'm sure it's been discussed time and again, just not tagged I guess).

How does one control NRE so as not to let it get out of control and end up hurting others?

J has a real problem with NRE. I have read through the forum enough to know what's going on, so I'm not having too much of a problem with it (there are a couple of things) for the most part. But, his stepmom is noticing things and is really upset right now, which causes his dad in turn to be upset. We are not "out" to them and never will be. That's just not a part of our lives that is their concern or need to know. But, I would like to have some info to share with J on how to control the NRE, as he knows and acknowledges that this is a problem area for him. Not just an NRE problem, but a new energy all around. Doesn't matter what it is that is new, J throws his all into it, which isn't always a bad thing. But right now, it's causing some pain to our loved ones, especially since they don't know what's going on, which makes it something that we really need to address and remedy ASAP.

This girl is just a temp girl and leaves for college in 2 weeks and then we move to NM not long after, so this one will remedy itself I guess. But for future relationships and the next 2 weeks, advice would be really appreciated.
Married 12 1/2 years. Female. Straight. New to poly.
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