You might want to do a tag search for "lessons" "foundations" "boundaries" "secondaries" and read before your chat. The best thing to remember is to have some boundaries that are honest and specific. Just because they are married does not make you a third wheel, so don't act like one. Ytou have the right to be loved, respected, given time to, etc. This is just as real a relationship as if you and he were dating. Make sure you are considerate of their boundaries and request that they both be of yours. Be open in your communication as much as you can and make it as safe as possible for her to be open also.
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