oh and sage, the relationship you described, though not my ideal, is something approaching what our relationship will be like. we will, however, live in the same city and have separate households. this is something i am comfortable with. in the beginning, i had a strong desire for a close relationship with the other woman and thought this was the only way it could work. i now feel like that is an ideal to aspire and/or work towards but not the only way it can go down. i don't think there is so much outright animosity now as there is relative indifference...which is an improvement, LOL! i have no desire to be at odds with her and if we can get to a point where we can function, if only from a "business" perspective (money management, picking up and dropping off kids and each other, grocery shopping, etc) i would be just fine...
Last edited by righthandwife; 07-27-2011 at 11:56 AM.