The best thing for me so far is being in the present moment as much as I can. I just read some great books on Tantric sex and I realize how important it is to just immerse myself in whatever I'm doing at the moment. There is much more room for joy and positive emotions when I am focused in the moment -- most of my negative ones come from regrets of the past or worries about the future. Who needs that? Poly forces me to do this, because each relationship is unique and deserving of my full attention. Also, I've been trying to change some of my emotional energy into body energy -- movement, rather than words. Sometimes I just blab too damn much. My body expresses emotions much better than my language, sometimes! But -- this is ME. It's the personal balance I'm working on -- others may need to work on speaking up more, but me, I needed to learn how to shut the hell up!!!