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Old 07-25-2011, 11:58 AM
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Originally Posted by redpepper View Post
Words of affirmation... Hmmmm... I hadn't really realized how important it is to me to be acknowedge for what I do and for who I am.
You're not alone in this. It is a HUGE need for me. I can honestly say that 90% of the damage from my previous relationship comes from a combination of lack of acknowledgement and.... how do I put it.... the opposite of being acknowledged? Being told that everything I did was bad/harmful/self centered? Is there even a word for that..... whatever, off topic.

Point being, some people need this a LOT more than others do. It took me forever to realize that it was something I needed, and I think (at least for me, not saying this neccessarily applies to you) that it has to do with a damaged sense/ability to percieve self worth. In other words, for me, It's one part knowing that the person appreciated me doing X, and one part knowing that I don't suck because I am doing X

Figure out why you need it, and expressing that need should become easier.
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