openbj, you said you were a virgin when you married your h. How old are you now, if I may ask, how old is he, and has he had several partners and group sex before?
I can see why if you've only had one partner your whole life, you're eager to try sex with a partner of either gender, even if it's in a 3way with your h. I've been friends with a Christian woman who married as a virgin who used to tell me she always thought she had missed out (finally in her 50s she had a 5 year affair, but is still happily married).
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley
Mags (poly, F, 60) loving miss pixi (poly, F, 38) since January 2009, living together since 2013
also loving Punk (monogamish, 42, M) since Oct 2015
"Master," (mono, 34), miss pixi's Dom for 2 years