It seems that something happens around years 17-20 in marriages (not all, but quite a few). I don't know if it's the amount of time people have been together, lets face it most of us couldn't wait to move out of our parents house after 18-20 years, or that the female hormones are starting to revert back to when we were 12 or just life stresses (house, kids, finances, etc) or just mid life crisis. We seem to have to consciously make an effort to "court" our spouse again and that becomes increasingly difficult when faced with everyday stresses and old resentments that haven't been resolved. My husband and I had to learn how to communicate all over again. We were in the habit of making assumptions based on what we "thought" was being said or done and we discovered that these assumptions were biting us both in the ass.
Last edited by SNeacail; 07-19-2011 at 10:23 PM.