It's too soon to say if we need to change. She went to one session and has another this week. At the one session what I undrstans was discussed is that my wife needs to 'work on herself' and that while doing so 'have fun with the threesome'. No feedback on the relationship between her and T. Who knows what will come from this weeks session.
I am 60 percent committed to keep trying. But honestly, 40 percent of me wants to walk and let her take the time to see what she wants. And when I say walk I mean move out. Then I become the weekend dad and she can have all the fereedom she wants. It's hard to not be bitter or angry. I am trying so hard to control emotions. But i wear my heart on my sleeve so its a real challenge.