SeventhCrow, That would be me.
Ember, Welcome. I am in the same situation as you. I have been married 18 years and until recently have been mono. My husband and I were introduced to our couple through a mutual friend. After getting to know them a little we started discussing swinging. Before we could actually get together, we all got emotionally attached. It is so weired because J (my hubby #2) is my mirror image and C (my husband's wife #2) is his mirror image. J and I think alike, do things alike, have the same personnality, as the same for my husband #1 and C. Our kids call us twins. We have been poly since Jan and we have definately had our issues, but with talking things out we have grown to be very strong and happy. We spend every weekend together. The only thing I wish I could change would be able to spend more time with them. It is truely amazing and wonderful.