I forgot to add to my previous post that, as this is no longer about poly, this will be my last post here. It wasn't poly that separated us. As I stated above, RBR told me she left the marriage long ago.
Thank you all so much for your help as we tried to take this poly journey. I think we would have made it had we truly had the strong marriage I thought we had entering this life change.
married, heterosexual male currently in an a newly opened relationship; married to RunBabyRun