Thanks Sage and Dinged...I tend to be cautious around the kids for the reasons you stated. And since my kids live with me, I don't want to stir up some custody issues should my ex find out and have the "oh my God they're perverts" knee jerk reaction, which even I, a couple of years ago, might have had. I totally did not understand polyamory until I was living it. And I still have questions, lol.
I tried being reasonable. I didn't like it. ~Clint Eastwood~