Originally Posted by redpepper
Just wanted to add, YOU ARE NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR HER HAPPINESS. That's bullshit so stop playing the martyr here. No one is responsible for her happiness but her. She is trying to figure that out after years of putting it aside for you and her kids. Give her a chance. One day taking off with her boyfriend does not mean she isn't figuring it out. Slow down! Take a breath! Get threw your anger and gain some perspective before you nail the coffin.
^^^ Yes, this! I said something similar to this earlier, basically. You may be reacting a bit rashly at this early stage. Don't throw the baby out with the bathwater.