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Old 07-14-2011, 06:51 PM
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Originally Posted by Castalia View Post
neither of us have openly said this to each . . .

H and i are both concerned with screwing up the friendship we all have.
Is H the friend you have feelings for? if so, the above two statements don't make sense to me. How do you know you both don't want to screw up the friendship if you've never talked about it?

Just trying to gain some clarity on the situation.

I say, figure out a way to express your desire and leave room for the option of remaining friends. Make sure he knows you're okay with whatever he decides.

Perhaps other folks who have taken a friendship further can chime in, but I think that if you are open and honest and don't let insecurities get in the way, you can't ruin a solid friendship.
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