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Old 10-17-2009, 05:19 PM
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Thanks Mono. Ive talked with LR and we decided that I could go the the couseling meeting tonite solo.I didnt see any reason to wait till next week. I also started a journal so I could look back at the feelings and emotions I had each day and see why I had them and then see if what I was fearing was real or just insecurities.
This is great news my friend. I do worry a little that the idea of you going solo implies that this is "your problem". There could be an argument for the requirement of solo counseling on the other end of this relationship as well. I just don't want to see you taking on the sense that the survival of your marriage rests soley on your shoulders or hinges on your ability to accept poly. It doesn't, it also depends on your partners need and reasons for pursuing poly. There really are two sides to this so never lose sight of that.
I wish you and your family all the love, happiness and prosperity in the world my friend.

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