You know the rollercoaster can be fun... as long as you don't think you're going to lose your life on it.
I was reminded recently of a scene from "Parenthood"... where the grandma is talking about how she went to the carnival with her beau when they were dating and how many people were scared of the roller coaster, they preferred the merry-go-round. But she liked the roller coaster... it was exciting and new and never boring. I think of that often when I'm feeling like "roller coaster" is a bad thing.
I'm glad you two are talking things through.