I no longer want to make this work.
And I think I need to change the title of this thread because I don't think I want it to work. I was under the assumption that she was ok with the relationship between her and me. That meant it was ok to have the other relationship between her and T. But if our 'primary' relationship is flawed and she can't get past the fact that life is sometimes very fucking hard and you dont run away from hard, you work through it, then this just wont work. Lesson learned for all wanna be poly's. If one relationshio is fucked up, there's no way 2 will work.