RC, glad to help.
You can still be a perfect husband. Having a poly wife doesn't change whether you can be a good husband (it just makes it mor interesting
I'm happy for you to hear that you felt the jealousy coming on but managed to keep it controlled. That's real progress. And when your wife got home and had all this energy from her exciting time, you were able to enjoy her joy rather than worry about your fear. As time goes on, you have that to look back on as you begin to build a new sense of stability so it becomes easier over time.