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Old 07-11-2011, 05:13 PM
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Originally Posted by openbj View Post
Like I said in my original, I'm not there yet, but I'm getting there. He's not being pushy about it, but we do discuss it.
My point is you don't ever have to get there or feel that you should. It sounds like, though he's not being pushy, that's what your husband wants more than you do. There is no need for you to push yourself, either, to get past your own wants and desires in order to do this "right." As a couple you don't have to have threesomes, you don't have to be into the same things, and you don't have to try anything that goes against what makes you comfortable just to please your partner.

But I'll stop now, since this is an introduction thread and just welcome you again. As you explore and have questions, please share on the forum! Also, see if your hubs would like to register here and post - it's always good when both partners in a relationship post their own perspectives.
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