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Old 10-16-2009, 12:31 AM
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Default Told my family

Well, I did it, finally. I told my mom and the two of my sisters that are in town this weekend that we are polyamorous. Now, they've met Tech and Kitten before but as our best friends.

I thought, and now know, that some of this was suspected. Knowing my family, I felt if they wanted those suspicions confirmed they would ask me. But, I have been feeling like I was living a lie with them and I just couldn't keep doing that since honesty is so important to me. Truthfully, at the beginning, I just wasn't prepared enough to know how to answer questions they might pose and we have had to work through so many things that I didn't feel confident enough we would make it at times for me to add the additional emotional stress of telling them to what I was already going through.

January will be three years since we all met and I think we've made it to a point that it was more stressful for me not to tell them that it was to do so.

Mom wishes I had just let her suspect. She is, however, good at denial and I feel can soon find herself there again if she needs that to cope. In fact, I told her if it made her feel better to just go back to thinking of them as our best friends because they are. Everyone's main concern is that Gator and I are doing fine as a couple. I understand that. Hopefully, it will eventually be like with our youngest son, and once they see that we are good it won't concern them any more. My sisters didn't have much to say. I have told them that if they come up with questions they'd like to ask I will be happy to answer them.

I was in an odd mood afterwards and just wasn't up to posting about this last night. Today I've decided to just be optimistic about things.
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