Originally Posted by NeonKaos
There should be a thread about the darker side of poly because i agree that there is a panacea attitude that poly just means more love and how can you go wrong with more love? While there is all kinds of stuff that the other partner is supposed to suck up and deal with (even if they are also poly-minded) because it's all about more love so how could that be a bad thing.
I hear what you're saying, Neon, but "sucking it up" is the exact opposite of what is recommended. Being open and honest is the opposite of sucking things up.
People do the most wretched things in the name of "love".
But a thread about it - that would be too pessimistic, wouldn't it?
This might be that thread. God knows my first foray into poly with my ex was rather a disaster, leading to me going on Zoloft for a year, and therapy for 3 years. But 10 years later, it's going fine (more or less), with a different primary and address!
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley
Mags, F, 60, poly-dating, loving and living with
miss pixi, F, 38
Punk, 41, M (dating since Oct 2015)
and a few more casual relationships