Wow. From here, it appears that her bucket o' crazy is overflowing. I'm not saying that to be mean, but to point out that she appears in need of treatment for personal issues that cause relationship issues for her.
I have a bipolar ex-wife. She didn't seek treatment until after we split, and then she apologized to me at that time.
Curly is also bipolar. She figured out she needed treatment prior to me calling it quits and we've had few problems since.
And I have OCD, which causes occasional problems. Knowing what kind of crazy is in your bucket helps a great deal in keeping it from slopping out on other people.