Are you sure? You said "He got the feeling she was feeling neglected even though her husband was there."
Filtering feelings and assumptions through multiple people doesn't do anybody any good. If she is nice, if she is kind, she will understand and be able to restrain herself for a bit while you get more comfortable. Your job is to look after your needs, your bf's is to look after his, and she will look after hers hopefully, and come out and say if she need more attention. Starting a dialogue with her via email or something might help, if you feel you need to hear it from the horses mouth. After all, she has a husband, and she is probably somewhat secure in her relationship with your boyfriend, as they have known each other for longer than you've known him. She probably isn't going around feeling neglected in general? Give her the chance to be loving towards you too, and help you be comfortable.
Happiness will never come to those who fail to appreciate what they already have.
Last edited by Anneintherain; 07-07-2011 at 08:54 AM.