Originally Posted by Syl
Isn't polyamorous wanting to be with other people because you love them as a person because you actually know them and want them, not because you want to use them so you don't feel lonely?
A few thoughts:
• Anybody who has a primary motivation of ending loneliness as a reason to enter relationships isn't really ready for said relationships.
• You have to realize that they had the exact same motivation to get involved with you, for better or worse.
• As far as knowing that one would want more than one partner goes, that's not unusual among poly folk.
When speaking of various forms of non-monogamy...it ain't poly if you're just fucking around.
While polyamory, open relationships, and swinging are all distinctly different approaches to non-monogamy, they are not mutually exlusive. Folks can, and some do, engage in more than one of them at a time--and it's all good.