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Old 07-04-2011, 04:57 PM
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Originally Posted by ClosetPoly View Post
- Don't say anything you're not CERTAIN of is true.
I don't see how anyone can do this with certainty. I have a hard time accepting that anyone can truly predict their emotional response to a situation they have not actually experienced. To me it's like saying "have sex but don't fall in love". You're asking someone to give you a gurantee of how they will react.

I've said lots of things with the belief that I knew how I would respond. After the fact, my reaction was not what I had predicted. So I guess I could fake an artificial response, but open communication is not about hiding things so why would I?

Instead of saying I know I will react this way, just say you think you'll react a certain way. Don't make promises or guesses about the unknown because you could be setting up your partner or yourself.

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