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Old 07-04-2011, 02:40 AM
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Originally Posted by Somegeezer View Post
Would you think writing down what I want to say would help her understand if it's really the case?
Perhaps. At the very least, writing it out could help you sort out what you want to say, whether you speak to her or give it to her to read.

Originally Posted by Somegeezer View Post
I'm just not sure how I could communicate it to her in a way she understands. I don't want her being upset over it. Not just because I don't like upsetting people, but because it is something she really needs to accept.
If you approach it with love and compassion, that's the best you can do. You have no control over what she does with the information. If she chooses to be upset about it, that's on her. If she refuses to accept your poly-ness, that's on her. All you can do is be honest, and express what you need to express in the kindest way you can. But sometimes it takes being a little firm to get people to take their blinders off.
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