Re-reading this thread fills me with sadness for my own shortcomings. It is SO coloured by feelings, rather than facts. Not good. I am actually feeling ashamed. This is sadly reflecting how I often communicate, poorly and inadequately, saying what I think will resolve the situation, rather than what I can stand for. I see this is another of my issues I need to work on.
TP: Busted. :-) Vanilla is *really* starting to get a grasp on sniffing out when I say something I don't mean, and that really helps. What I have realised recently though is that in this, there is almost no selfishness, within reason, it's coping and surviving. And if this is gonna work for all of us, I have to man up and be "selfish" enough to say what I feel, not what I think I want to feel.
Mono engaged to poly VanillaCrazyCake
Don't fear god, don't worry about death; What is good is easy to get, and what is terrible is easy to endure.