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Old 07-03-2011, 09:54 PM
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: ) I am sorry I didn't mean to make it sound like I was refering to BF, as an object. He is not by any means and object or without feeling. I love him and care for him very much. I think it might have come across that way, because I am trying to avoid posting too much emotion.
No, I didn't mean to imply that you looked at him that way, just that when you talk about moving someone in or not, it is important to discuss it amongst all three and see what everyone's needs and desires are, rather than just logistics. Actually, I think I'm still not being clear, sorry.

But now I'm confused - I thought you meant earlier that there is a caring and respect for your metamour, but now you say you love your gf's bf. Just trying to get clear on the situation.
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