Originally Posted by Abstract
I am totally ok with my partner having a BF, or BF's, but the living together I really struggel with. We have talked about at some point trying that again. Or at least we don't want to be closed off to the possibility.
There's no requirement in poly for all people involved to live together! If it's not comfortable to add someone to your home, don't do it! Especially if the relationship is new, like less than a year old - you need time to grow to know someone. It can still be a loving, nurturing relationship with separate living spaces. Some people divide their time during the week at two homes - read Vodkafan's threads about that. But you certainly don't have to move the bf or any other lovers in with you! And it's not indicative of something wrong or incorrect if you don't!