Yeah if you look at cougar porn, it's mostly all women in the mid 30s to mid 40s. I was being tongue in cheek about an "official" decree. I did think of myself as a cougar when I first started on okc at age 53 and started getting hit on by all these young men in their 20s. None of those guys ever called me a cougar, they just said they'd always had a fantasy about being with an older woman.
I watched Cougar Town once, and saw Cox's bf looked to be only about 10 years younger than her, 30ish to her 40ish, and I thought, pffft, she isn't really a cougar after all!
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley
me: Mags, 59, living with:
miss pixi, 37