This thread has turned into a perfect example of why using the word Polyamory is not the best way to try to explain my relationship to those unfamiliar with non-monogamous dynamics. They immediately Google it and get such a wide variety of opinions it means nothing anymore. People understand the terms swinging and open relationship much easier, but that is not what I am in.
I prefer to stick to "I'm in a loving relationship with multiple people involved". That way all the other things like swinging and casual sex aren't included in what I am talking about. I need a way to distinguish my relationship with clarity for the benefit of my family and friends. Poly is not it. Too bad..it has a catchy tune don't ya think