I prefer the cuddle approach, i.e. if there is something going on I am a bit scared to bring up, I try discussing it when everyone's relaxed, cuddly and feeling good.
A couple I know has been together for ages and hang onto each other ALL THE TIME. The wife commented it's very hard to fight properly about anything with him because they are both all the time overdosed on oxytocin
"Resentment destroys more alcoholics than anything else. From it stems the root of our spiritual disease."
"In dealing with resentments, we set them on paper - list people, institutions and principles with whom you are angry. Ask yourself why you are angry."
"In most cases it was found out that our self-esteem, our pocketbooks, our ambitions, our personal relationships, including sex, were hurt or threatened. We were sore, burnt-up." Alcoholics Anonymous, 64-65.