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Old 06-30-2011, 12:06 AM
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Originally Posted by Tinyblu View Post
I am really leaning towards just NOT going and letting the chips fall where they may . . . His response will determine if I back out or not.
You mean you will back out of the trip... or the relationship... based on his response? His response to what? Not clear. Telling him you won't go? Would you just be saying it to see what kind of reaction you get, or would you mean it? And not go? Truly being assertive means you back up what you say and be willing to follow through, you don't just dangle some words in front of him as a test.

I only ask because you may not realize this, but you still come across as wishy-washy and undecided.
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