If you read some of my last posts there, that's been the theme of most of my recent personal work.
I spent a long time thinking of myself in terms of a victim, and letting other people tell me that's all I was. Then I realized that the people calling me a victim were people who had never had to get up off their back, pull their boots on, and run for their lives.
I get to define what I am, and what I am is done with bullshit. Tough choices and all, I'm so much better off now.