Yeah, I get it. I realize I did not paint a pretty picture. And I agree. He does need help figuring out how to be happy on his own. I've encouraged him to go to therapy alone and with me. But, he believes that he's not unhappy, but rather grieving the loss of a love. The day to day stuff just doesn't even come into our discussions because idonr want to pile on when he's miserable and when he's happy he is a wonderful person so that stuff doesn't come up.
Does that make sense? I. Other words, when he's being his good self, it's easy for me to be in denial that the other side exists at all.