hmmm.. I would like to argue that being treated equally doesn't mean being treated the same either! Equal consideration to my emotions (even if, as in the case that Mono cites, I have less time invested in the family so I would need/want/have earned less involvement in family decisions - extreme example... OK so I wouldn't get to chose the kids school.. but you wouldn't up and leave for the other side of the world to live without considering what it would do to me).. Equal respect.. etc.
I don't want or expect to be treated the same as anyone, but I would like to think I am treated with equal *fairness* I guess you could say... so we are really saying the same thing Mono... just using different words