Originally Posted by stargazer23
I'm doin it wrong.
Isn't your problem--it's his. The initial ignorance can be easily forgiven, the refusal to consider your explanations just means he's got issues.
When speaking of various forms of non-monogamy...it ain't poly if you're just fucking around.
While polyamory, open relationships, and swinging are all distinctly different approaches to non-monogamy, they are not mutually exlusive. Folks can, and some do, engage in more than one of them at a time--and it's all good.