Originally Posted by Ignorant
How would I ever be comfortable with being dehumanized and used by him and someone I don't love just so they could feel less awkward about homosexual sex? ...I began to see our little threesomes with women to be very little about who they were as a person but all about this extra body for our pleasure. They would get in their feelings and we barely registered their distress. I should want to be in this position just to nto be called a homophobe?!?
No. No one should be using anyone else for sex. I suggested you 2 could look at gay male porn and perhaps do something with you playing at penetrating him. Bringing you into a sex scene with another to be used as a bridge when you aren't cool with the idea, and just feel like a piece of meat, sounds very unhealthy indeed. Does he really want to just use you that way?
Personally, I'd find it hot to be with a male lover and watch him fuck another guy... but I know I would be able to have fun with it and not feel excluded.
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley
There's no lying in polyamory!
I'm a 58 year old woman with 2 partners:
miss pixi, my live-in gf, 36 (together since Jan '09)
Ginger, bf, 61, married, lives nearby (together since Jan '12)