Originally Posted by GroundedSpirit
Quite simply, you have only to decide you are going to live with integrity - or not.
You are either poly - or not.
Playing games to be something other than what you truly are for some possible net gain is only using people. Experience has shown that that always crashes in the end anyway - sooner or later.
I've read so many posts that make it seem like anyone who doesn't act on all their impulses is somehow living a lie. Being human is, imo, about balancing desires with reason and the freedom to make choices. I believe everyone ultimately has the potential to desire partnership with more than one person. That does not mean that it is necessary to choose to be with more than one person (at a time) in a romantic relationship. You may say that making choices that defer satiating (all) one's desires is repression but so is not putting everything you see at the supermarket in your shopping cart or not ordering everything on the menu you find appealing.