I think you should be able to express to him everything you said in your last post. Those are very important and valid points you make. You do not want to feel used (although perhaps someday you might eventually like the idea of participating, if it's your own choice to do so). You obviously would rather have meaningful relationships than recreational sex. He has been holding back his feelings, you are imagining how that has flavored your entire relationship thus far. All this non-communication is eroding the good you have, and wearing you down. The two of you need to stop hiding how you're feeling in order to heal.
Last edited by nycindie; 06-25-2011 at 08:04 PM.