Originally Posted by serialmonogamist
Has anyone had the experience of bringing up the issue of open-relationships with a partner and losing them as a result? What about a partner who agrees to try out poly relationships and then the relationship fails once you begin seeing other people? In general, would you ever recommend avoiding pursuit of polyamory in the interest of maintaining the security of monogamous closure?
Quite simply, you have only to decide you are going to live with integrity - or not.
You are either poly - or not.
Playing games to be something other than what you truly are for some possible net gain is only using people. Experience has shown that that always crashes in the end anyway - sooner or later.